Finding a lasting relationship can be difficult, especially if you have an idea of the perfect partner in mind. It will be hard for others to measure up to your ideal, since everyone has faults. Even if you do find someone that measures up to your ideal, your partner may decide that you don't measure up to his or her own. When this happens, the search for the ideal partner begins all over again.
Jumping headlong into any relationship may be considered foolish for several reasons. You may think you love someone immediately, but after a few days of intimacy, the reality of the situation can sink in. You may discover that you really don't know much about the person and that can be frightening. The intensity of a passionate relationship may quickly diminish, leaving you wondering where the love went. Well, real love didn't go anywhere because it wasn't there to begin with. Don't confuse love with lust. Love is caring deeply for someone and wanting to spend time with him or her on a regular basis. Lust seldom lasts for any length of time, and it often leaves people feeling empty and used. People who regularly find themselves in this type of relationship may believe that real love is so hard to find.